nope, this entry will not be about accessories. I just feel so good after reading the book and I feel like I should be sharing this with you (naks as if andaming followers). I came across this book from books24x7 in skillsoft. Skillsoft is a program in my company accessible to every employee. And I believe this is one tool that the company should really maximize and let the employees know how useful it is.( and yes, i'm loving skillsoft now! especially books24x7 - bookworm :P)
title of the book : THE POWER OF CHARM: How to win anyone over in any situation
by Brian Tracy and Ron Arden
I took down a lot of notes,quotes and lessons from this book. And I love it really. I'm not a very charming person. But I try to be ;). And coming across this book, was definitely a great thing. A lot of blogs, even articles we see online has something to do with self-esteem, self improvement and the likes. If you want to develop a charming personality, this book is for you :)
Do you know someone who is charming? Or would you consider yourself a charming individual?
Charming is defined as to be alluring or pleasing (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/charming)
the book mentioned 5 As on how to be charming. Let's see how many A's you have.
For someone to be considered charming, he/she accepts the person he deals with without prejudice. And how exactly does the charmer do that? Smile. A genuine one. Remember the saying how smile is such a simple act but it takes a lot of effort? If we are more accepting of situations, we will be able to smile more easily. So smile :)
A charmer knows how to say Thank You. Expressing your gratitude over something another person has done for you ( be it a huge favor or a simple gesture of handing over your fee to the driver) actually makes you a charming individual. Admit it. People in public transportation actually forget to say thank you when you reach their fare to the driver. It's not as if its your responsibility to do so, but a little appreciation goes a long way.
Name one person who does not want to be approved. Each one of us would be so glad when we get praises or commendations be it at work, at school, with our family, friends. Approval boosts our self esteem and builds our self confidence. A charmer works his way to praise you. He/she makes an effort to let you know that you did a good job and that you deserve a pat in the back.
''You look good today. I wonder what it is but you are blooming.'' An automatic smile and heart leap will be my reaction to that statement. Why? Girls love being complimented. One guy friend told me that flattery, no matter how we hate it, is one area a woman gets weak. Fine. But on the contrary, men enjoys being complimented too. As Abraham Lincoln said ( this one I took from the book as well) : Everyone likes a compliment. A charming individual knows how to make you feel good without being such a kiss-ass.
Time. Admit it or not, when someone takes time to be with us - be it your suitor, lover, friend, officemate -
they somehow fit the bill of being a charmer. Why? Because getting the attention from someone is like getting part of their life. Time spent on us makes us feel important. When we feel important, it gives us that feeling that we actually matter.“Time goes by so fast, people go in and out of your life. You must never miss the opportunity to tell these people how much they mean to you.”. Now that is charming ;)
After going through these 5 A's, I realized that its so easy to be charming. All we have to do is care.
They don't care how much you know until they know how much you care - Lou Holtz